Comments on: Am I doing Something Wrong in My Relationship? http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/unsure-in-my-relationship/ Is there that one special person in the world - just for you Sun, 05 Dec 2010 21:01:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 By: Ms. Soulmate http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/unsure-in-my-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-115 Ms. Soulmate Wed, 05 Aug 2009 19:22:56 +0000 http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/?p=363#comment-115 Sometimes we women are our own worst enemies. We will preach to the high heavens we want someone who is nice, affectionate, and gives us attention. Then when that man come along we either don't pay attention or worse cause problems in the relationship. This sounds like your lady love might have this "syndrome". We (ladies) want nice guys but we crave "bad" boys. This bad boy persona draws us in over and over. We want either what we can't have, or the one who could care less about us. In this case you seem sure of your feelings and communicate them to your girlfriend in your actions and words. You might want to curb this for a while. A little bit of mystery from you, so she doesn't know what your thinking all the time, may spark her interest. If she becomes unsure that she "has you" it may make her want you more. I may get some flak from the others for this because I am advocating playing games but sorry that's life - you have to play games whether they are normally the way you act or forced. You have to make your partner think there are others interested simply because this reinforces her interest. If others find you attractive it gives her another reason to hold on herself. Once you pull back she will then take the initiative and show some affection herself. Most importantly, you must remember to be you. Regardless of what you may think now - she may not be the one for you. You may need someone more verbal and affectionate. If that is what makes you happy and she doesn't come around it's you that maybe should move on. What you need and like is a great way to be, your not asking here to dress like a Playboy Bunny and go out in public, your asking her to talk with you and show affection - both normal and absolutely necessary in any relationship to remain healthy and vibrant. Sometimes we women are our own worst enemies. We will preach to the high heavens we want someone who is nice, affectionate, and gives us attention. Then when that man come along we either don’t pay attention or worse cause problems in the relationship.

This sounds like your lady love might have this “syndrome”. We (ladies) want nice guys but we crave “bad” boys. This bad boy persona draws us in over and over. We want either what we can’t have, or the one who could care less about us.

In this case you seem sure of your feelings and communicate them to your girlfriend in your actions and words. You might want to curb this for a while. A little bit of mystery from you, so she doesn’t know what your thinking all the time, may spark her interest. If she becomes unsure that she “has you” it may make her want you more.

I may get some flak from the others for this because I am advocating playing games but sorry that’s life – you have to play games whether they are normally the way you act or forced. You have to make your partner think there are others interested simply because this reinforces her interest. If others find you attractive it gives her another reason to hold on herself. Once you pull back she will then take the initiative and show some affection herself.

Most importantly, you must remember to be you. Regardless of what you may think now – she may not be the one for you. You may need someone more verbal and affectionate. If that is what makes you happy and she doesn’t come around it’s you that maybe should move on. What you need and like is a great way to be, your not asking here to dress like a Playboy Bunny and go out in public, your asking her to talk with you and show affection – both normal and absolutely necessary in any relationship to remain healthy and vibrant.

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