Soulmate BLOG

Everyday begins to feel exactly the same.  Nothing changes; even the dinner menu in your home is practically the same week after week.  You start to long for the days when your relationship was new, that feeling of anticipation when you saw your partner.  Now, you work longer hours and are in no rush to get home.  A phone call is generally in regards to what needs to be picked up from the store rather then the flirty phone calls of the yesteryears it feels.  You sit back and think to yourself when did the thrill leave in my relationship.

When the thrill is gone from your relationship you have two options, do something about it to get it back or leave and start over.  First, you need to evaluate if your relationship is worth saving.  If you still love your partner but are just bored with the same old same old then it is time to do something about it and quick, because if your feeling the loss of thrill, more then likely so is your partner.  If the thrill is gone because you are simply no longer in love with the person or attracted to the person, before stepping out and cheating, do both of yourselves a favor and be honest with your partner.  A relationship break is hard enough without adding infidelity to the already existing issues.

If your ready to add some trill back into your relationship that has grown stale you can read all the magazine advice stories you want.  They will all pretty much tell you the same thing, plan romantic dinners, start dating your partner again, bubble baths, candles and do not forget the old stand by, soft music playing in the backdrop.  This is real life we are dealing with and although some of those things may work for some but are just quick fixes and eventually they will burn out.  You have to dig a little deeper and find out why the thrill died in the first place and this means communication.

Sit down with your partner and tell them how you feel.  It has probably been a long time since the two of you actually sat down and actually discussed your relationship status anyhow and could partially to blame for the reason of the thrill being gone in the relationship.  If partners do not check in from time to time with one another about how they feel the relationship is going and if they feel their needs are being met adequately, you bet the thrill will die.  Partners cannot read each others minds no matter how connected you think you are.  Lack of a good communication base is the biggest demise to most relationships.  It is where all problems start.  If couples would just communicate more and communicate effectively divorce rates would not be as high.  You have to have an open communication so you can discuss issues before they develop into huger ones, such as the thrill being gone from your relationship people.

Opening up communication and discussing each other’s needs and working out a plan to try to accommodate each other needs is the biggest step in rekindling t thrill in your relationship.  Nothing else you do will matter if this step is not done first.  You can skip this step and go on to making an afternoon phone call and asking your partner out for a dinner date at 7 PM but do not be surprised if you get shot down or questioned why your calling setting dinner plans.

When you both are aware of how the other one feels and are equally motivated to save the relationship then, based off of each other needs that they feel are not being met is where the healing begins.  Your partner may not give a rats’ behind about a candle lit bubble bath or a night out on the town with the boys.  It may be more important to them to have extra help around the house they do feel more motivated to get physical in the evening.  Whatever the reasons are that you ad your partner feel are the reasons the thrill is gone from your relationship is where you need to start working on.  Quick fixes are like putting a Band-Aid on a leak in a damn.  It might hold for a second, but when it breaks, it is going to be ugly.