Soulmate BLOG

Though love is evergreen and age is no bar when it comes to loving there are certain stresses when your partner is 25 years younger. These do not hit the eye immediately in the first flush of love or attraction but gradually they start making their presence felt and things may get a tad difficult if not handled properly.

The first problem with the big age difference is the naturally big gap in the life experiences of your partner and yourself. You are much more mature, have seen more of the world than your partner and can claim to have more worldly experiences in all the things which matter. The urge to act like a parent (notwithstanding the romance) will be strong but it has to be curbed.

It is very easy to slip in the parental mode and censure your partner like a child and you have to constantly remind yourself not to do it, especially if your partner starts taking offense. The constant vigilance can stress you out so treat your partner like an adult and not a child even if you have a difference of 25 years between you.

Another type of stress when your partner is 25 years younger is the inevitable incompatible energy levels. Though strictly speaking, this is not a hard and fast rule (many still sprightly seniors can give stiff competition to the younger lot), generally it is seen that while the younger partner may want to paint the town red, the older one may want to have a relaxing evening at home and this may lead to conflict of interests over a period of time. Or even if the older partner does participate in all the hopping across town, it may soon get exhausting to keep up with the younger partner.

Hobbies and tastes may differ and what is your interest may not be the same as your partner’s. For instance, your reading habits may differ; your music tastes may be totally different or you may have different ideas of entertainment or vacationing. All this may add up and lead to small-time bickering which can lead to stress.

A younger partner may want to go out on his/her own at times to hang out with friends more their age and this is perfectly acceptable if are fully secure about your relationship and have no problems with the younger partner having a good time sometimes on his/her own. The problem comes only when that green monster raises its head making you insecure and jealous. This jealousy will prey upon your mind even if you give in to the younger one’s wishes and can prove to be really stressful.

Another unforeseen difficulty may arise in the acceptance of the much younger partner by your family and friends. And if the unacceptability persists, both of you can become stressed out.

Nevertheless, the stresses when your partner is much younger can be tackled if both of you handle the relationship with love, trust and maturity.