Soulmate BLOG

Like most of my counterparts, at times I sit and contemplate why most of the time men don’t call when they say they will. These are the times when the mind gets flooded with questions like ‘Is he playing games with me?, ‘Is something else going on in his mind?’ or ‘Is it just another trick to attract more attention? The entire day passes by and the eye keeps rolling over the phone again and again expecting his call. The long wait finally turns into frustration and ultimately into rejection.

There can be various reasons why men don’t call when they say they will. It can sometimes be as simple as being too busy at work, the extreme forgetfulness or in the  worst case an intentional plan. Whatever the reasons, for a woman the whole situation can be quite unnerving and disastrous. Under extreme circumstances, the entire state of affairs can be very sad and even lead to breakups.

It is not always fair to be negative and get back to wrong conclusions. If your man doesn’t call does not necessarily mean that he does not care for you. Any man who is doing so definitely has a reason for doing it. In rare cases, it is also seen that men are really busy at work and they are so engrossed in their occupation that the concept of calling his woman rests at the back of his mind. Though, this reason is not quite acceptable as he can always steal a minute from his busy schedule to give you a small call to avoid all misunderstandings.

However, most of the times, the major reason for this negligence is to monitor your reaction over the whole episode. Men, as a species are too sensitive and want to know their position in your life. As such, they want to find out the status of their relationship through your reaction to his actions. If you actually overreact and shower him with a whole lot of blames, he will get rest assured that you actually give that much of importance to him in your life. This, nevertheless, can also make him quite calm and poise as he believes that you are too much involved with him. As a result, this will make him even more relaxed and he might also reduce his calls further.

As such, in these cases, it is always advisable to show such men that you have an independent life of your own and such small incidents, as his missing phone call does not actually pester you . It is preferable that you do not show your  restlessness to him by calling him again and again but this should not be taken to such an impersonal level that the man feels dejected leading to an unwanted breakup. The best way is to show your self-respect to him, which is sure to increase your appeal. In any case, if the man does not call you regularly, it is best not to waste your life on such men and move on.