Soulmate BLOG

Dating is exciting and enjoyable when you do it right. In the end, everyone knows that the object of dating is to find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with so, is it fair to date someone just to have a good time? This can be a difficult question to answer well. It is vital that you are completely honest with the other person. But, even if you are honest and up-front with the person about your intentions you have to consider the fact that in the back of their minds they may be hoping that they will be able to change your mind and that you will someday “end up together”.

There are times when both partners agree to just date each other to have a good time and that neither is interested in a long-term relationship. That is all fine and good while both partners are in agreement, but the fact is that this type of arrangement won’t last forever and there may be pain involved when it ends. The possible scenarios include one or the other of you finds someone that they are interested in having a relationship with and calls off the casual dating relationship or that one or the other falls in love and complicates the relationship to the point it has to be broken off. In either of these scenarios there is pain involved when the relationship ends even though both parties agreed to date for fun at the onset.

The reality is that maybe it isn’t fair to date someone just for a good time at all. Perhaps you simply have to find activities to do with your friends and find ways of making yourself happy until you find a person that you are truly interested in dating. This is not to say you can’t go out on plenty of dates, but if it becomes clear that you are not interested in a relationship with the person, the fair thing to do would be to tell them that and decide to be friends.

You can certainly have friends of the opposite sex to go out and have a good time with. The key is that you shouldn’t be sleeping with any of them because that is what complicates things. Having some self control and caring more about other people’s feelings than your own “good time” will make you a better person and better prepare you to have a meaningful relationship when the opportunity presents itself.
There have been many cases where a casual relationship complicated things to the point that it interfered with a person’s ability to move into a serious relationship with someone that would’ve been a good match for them and that is certainly not the outcome you would want to have. Is it fair to date someone just to have a good time? Probably not, but it is fair to date a lot of people and have a good time while you search for “the one” to settle down with.