Soulmate BLOG

Congratulations, if you think that you have a perfect relationship! After all, how many of us can claim such a thing? Most of us go through life complaining about some missing element in our relationships and are never content with what we have. What we fail to realize is that any relationship, whether it is marriage, or any other type of arrangement, takes place when two people come together and no two people can be the same.

Both have their own sets of characteristics, their idiosyncrasies, but they come together because of a common ground; i.e., love. Love brings even diametrically opposite people together in long-lasting relationships. The problem arises when they start having higher than realistic expectations from each other, thus setting themselves up for potential disappointment.

Perfection is a personal perception; a way of looking at things subjectively. What one person may consider perfect, the other may find innumerable flaws. So, if you are happy in your relationship and think that it is perfect, revel in it; don’t let negative thoughts come in your mind like, oh, something must be wrong or my partner must be hiding something from me, or it’s impossible to be so perfect etc., etc.? Why should you worry just because you are lucky enough to share something “perfect” with a partner? You should count your lucky stars that you are happy and content and are one of the rare few who do not feel that something is always lacking in their relationship.

As said earlier, perfection is a matter of individual perception; if you feel that the things, which you consider important in a relationship, are there, it will make your relationship perfect in your eyes. Why let others’ perceptions or definitions of what a perfect relationship should be like bother you?

By even letting negative thoughts enter your mind, like should I worry about the too perfect state of my relationship, you are opening the door to unnecessary doubts and suspicions. Any successful relationship is based on love and trust, and if this is intact, worrying about what might happen is downright silly.

If your partner is caring and loving, if your smallest need is attended to, if you and your partner exhibit thoughtfulness towards each other; all these small things constitute a perfect relationship; and who are you to look a gift horse in the mouth?! Just imagine; how many would give anything to be in your shoes? How many can claim to be content in their marriage or partnership?

All of us are bogged down with our ideals of perfection gleamed from other people, books or the media and in the process, let our relationships be governed by other people’s rules. Slowly, discontent sets in, we start finding faults in our relationship, and ultimately we destroy our own peace of mind.

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