Comments on: Breakup/Makeup Your Are on a Treadmill That Won’t End http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/breakupmakeup-your-are-on-a-treadmill-that-wont-end/ Is there that one special person in the world - just for you Sun, 05 Dec 2010 21:01:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 By: Ms. Soulmate http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/breakupmakeup-your-are-on-a-treadmill-that-wont-end/comment-page-1/#comment-141 Ms. Soulmate Sat, 29 Aug 2009 23:17:35 +0000 http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/?p=333#comment-141 Steph, Throughout your comment you only mention all the bad/wrong things in your relationship - not one good comment. I think you really have answered your own question whether you realize it or not. Steph,
Throughout your comment you only mention all the bad/wrong things in your relationship – not one good comment.

I think you really have answered your own question whether you realize it or not.

]]> By: STEPH http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/breakupmakeup-your-are-on-a-treadmill-that-wont-end/comment-page-1/#comment-140 STEPH Sat, 29 Aug 2009 22:07:08 +0000 http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/?p=333#comment-140 I HAVE BEEN IN A BREAK UP MAKE UP RELATIONSHIP FOR A YEAR IN A HALF I CANT EVEN COUNT HOW MANY TIME'S WE BROKE UP. I DONT KNOW IF ITS LOVE, SECURITY , OR MONEY ALL I KNOW IS THERE'S A PART OF ME THAT DEPENDS ON HIM FOR SOMETHING . I USED TO DO EVERYTHING HE TOLD ME TO IN THE BEGINNING THEN I BROKE UP WITH HIM FOR A CHANGE , THE TABLES TURNED A LITTLE . BUT THE FIGHTING NEVER STOPPED .WE'RE DIFFERENT ,WE'RE NOT FROM THE SAME PLACE IN FACT HES FROM THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD .AND I'M A PROUD AMERICAN AND NOT ASHAMED OF WHO I AM . THERE'S SO MANY THINGS TEARING US APART, I'M A MOTHER VS HES USED TO DOING WHATEVER HE WANTS , I'M LOGICAL VS HE'S IN-PRACTICAL ALWAYS ASKING FOR MORE, I LIKE TO MAKE PLANES TO DO STUFF VS THAT TURNS HIM OFF IT MAKES HIM WANT TO CHANGE HIS MIND AT LAST MINUTE WHAT DO I DO ??? DO I LET HIM GET ON THE PLANE AND LEAVE OR DO I STOP HIM AND TRY TO MAKE IT WORK. EITHER WAY ITS HARD . I HAVE BEEN IN A BREAK UP MAKE UP RELATIONSHIP FOR A YEAR IN A HALF I CANT EVEN COUNT HOW MANY TIME’S WE BROKE UP. I DONT KNOW IF ITS LOVE, SECURITY , OR MONEY ALL I KNOW IS THERE’S A PART OF ME THAT DEPENDS ON HIM FOR SOMETHING .
I USED TO DO EVERYTHING HE TOLD ME TO IN THE BEGINNING THEN I BROKE UP WITH HIM FOR A CHANGE , THE TABLES TURNED A LITTLE . BUT THE FIGHTING NEVER STOPPED .WE’RE DIFFERENT ,WE’RE NOT FROM THE SAME PLACE IN FACT HES FROM THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD .AND I’M A PROUD AMERICAN AND NOT ASHAMED OF WHO I AM . THERE’S SO MANY THINGS TEARING US APART, I’M A MOTHER VS HES USED TO DOING WHATEVER HE WANTS , I’M LOGICAL VS HE’S IN-PRACTICAL ALWAYS ASKING FOR MORE, I LIKE TO MAKE PLANES TO DO STUFF VS THAT TURNS HIM OFF IT MAKES HIM WANT TO CHANGE HIS MIND AT LAST MINUTE
WHAT DO I DO ???
DO I LET HIM GET ON THE PLANE AND LEAVE OR DO I STOP HIM AND TRY TO MAKE IT WORK. EITHER WAY ITS HARD .

]]> By: Ms. Soulmate http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/breakupmakeup-your-are-on-a-treadmill-that-wont-end/comment-page-1/#comment-91 Ms. Soulmate Fri, 24 Jul 2009 16:04:18 +0000 http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/?p=333#comment-91 Unfortunately, it sounds like your partner, while being in love with you, is just not ready to be married. I don't know how old you are but it may be he is just too emotionally young. Some men are too young when they are 28 and others when they are 38. My grandmother/grandfather married at 17 and stayed married till their deaths in their late 70s. Most social psychologists suggest that women decide to marry when they meet the right man. Conversely, men will marry the woman they have a relationship with at the time they determine marriage is right for them. You have to accept your boyfriends decision, putting any type of pressure to induce him to marry would be a big mistake. Possibly just suggest you go on with the relationship and if either of you meet someone else just see what happens. Many times when a man realizes he may really lose you it convinces him that it is more important to be with you and that quells his indecision. Unfortunately, it sounds like your partner, while being in love with you, is just not ready to be married. I don’t know how old you are but it may be he is just too emotionally young. Some men are too young when they are 28 and others when they are 38. My grandmother/grandfather married at 17 and stayed married till their deaths in their late 70s.

Most social psychologists suggest that women decide to marry when they meet the right man. Conversely, men will marry the woman they have a relationship with at the time they determine marriage is right for them.

You have to accept your boyfriends decision, putting any type of pressure to induce him to marry would be a big mistake. Possibly just suggest you go on with the relationship and if either of you meet someone else just see what happens. Many times when a man realizes he may really lose you it convinces him that it is more important to be with you and that quells his indecision.

]]> By: Dianna http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/breakupmakeup-your-are-on-a-treadmill-that-wont-end/comment-page-1/#comment-88 Dianna Thu, 23 Jul 2009 15:46:33 +0000 http://soulmate-blog.com/Home/?p=333#comment-88 I have been in a year in a half relationship with a man whom I love but about a month and a half ago he broke it off with me to only want me back a month ago so we decided to take it slow but he talked me into coming back home and working things. we were engaged at the time of the breakup so when we got back together he proposed marriage again and I gladly accepted but a week ago he called off the wedding which was planned for august 10th and also told me he had doubt and second thoughts about us so I was going to move out but decided to stay now I am thinking twice about staying I am so confused anymore about this man I don't know if I should stay or go he says he loves me but I say how can u love me with doubt I don't believe him at all anymore and all this has done is now put doubt in my mind about him what should I do?? I know I don't want to live on a roller coaster anymore. I have been in a year in a half relationship with a man whom I love but about a month and a half ago he broke it off with me to only want me back a month ago so we decided to take it slow but he talked me into coming back home and working things. we were engaged at the time of the breakup so when we got back together he proposed marriage again and I gladly accepted but a week ago he called off the wedding which was planned for august 10th and also told me he had doubt and second thoughts about us so I was going to move out but decided to stay now I am thinking twice about staying I am so confused anymore about this man I don’t know if I should stay or go he says he loves me but I say how can u love me with doubt I don’t believe him at all anymore and all this has done is now put doubt in my mind about him what should I do?? I know I don’t want to live on a roller coaster anymore.

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