Soulmate BLOG

If you are beginning to suspect that your partner maybe inclined to getting abusive, here are some signs to watch out for:

One of the most common and important signs your partner may be abusive is that they manage to gain control of themselves just when they need to. For instance, if they have had a bad time with their bosses, they would still manage to remain calm with them, and with everybody else around at their office (including the ones they can somewhat afford to show their dissatisfaction to). All the anger and frustration would vent out later on you, or their other loved ones. This proves that the cause of their frustration may not exactly be anger.

Abusers are also good at putting on the cool and collected look just mid way between the arguments, when they need to. For instance, suppose the phone rings while your partner is having one of those serious fights with you. Your partner would instantly stop and be able to collect himself/herself back till you are done with answering and hanging up the call, in such restrain that it could be surprising. »Continue reading Signs Your Partner May Be Abusive

Well, we have made it through another year, not an easy one for most people in the economic sense. Those of us born in the 70’s and 80’s have hard time relating to recession, the last one being in the late 1980/1990’s when we lived the life of no problems. As I recall when I was a young working lad in my 20’s very few outside economic uncertainties ever even entered my mind, much less caused me any to lose sleep. The circumstance over the last few years is my first occurrence with any type of financial worry. »Continue reading That Wonderful Time of Year – Well Maybe Not

Although now almost ten years old this movie – Serendipity – still strikes a chord in a soulmate’s heart. Basically, it’s a simple “love will conquer” type love story that you might expect to have been produced in the 1930’s with William Powell and Myrna Loy. The couple meets, both have significant others, and lose each other through a series of (certainly unbelievable) turns of fate. Movie segues to several years later, both are engaged and have not been in contact (I’ll explain that later) since that one day chance meeting. Needless to say both terminate their engagements and find each other for the happy ending. »Continue reading The Concept of Soulmates Explained Perfectly by Hollywood

OK, I’m a slightly jaded, and certainly more than a little sheltered, but I still feel left out in conversations these days. In speaking to a friend the other day she related all the problems she was having getting her driver’s license renewed. Now, with most states requiring proof of legal residence in the United States, it’s not so simple any more. You see my friend is married – to her fourth husband. Apparently, you have to prove you were born (or came here legally) with a birth certificate and Social Security card. Now that is easy for us men we are born with one name and keep it until we die – unless we change it for show business reasons but that’s another subject. The ladies who change their names, hyphenated or otherwise, must now prove how they obtained their married name – i.e. marriage certificate – and how it was changed back – i.e. divorce certificate. »Continue reading A Little Rant

Who says that love and romance die, once you hit the ‘seniors’ category?! Love is evergreen and knows no age bar when it comes to romancing. In fact, seniors may make better lovers and companions since they have more life experiences and are more emotionally mature. Nevertheless, the path of seniors dating is not exactly smooth and there may be a few hurdles to cross before they attain the right relationship.

People entering the dating scene after the age of 55 are generally widowed or divorced or separated from a spouse. Those remaining single are the exceptions rather than the rule. Usually, the category of seniors is a well-settled group who are comfortable with who they are and their status quo in life.

There is no more the tearing hurry to prove themselves as in their youth and they know exactly what they want from life. Seniors dating is no longer as outlandish as was considered earlier and now seniors are actively seeking out dates just for temporary company or as potential life companions. »Continue reading Seniors dating and their problems – the various causes

You’re married and enjoying the experience when should you consider having children?  This is an issue that all couples deal with at one point in their relationship.  Hopefully you have talked about your desire to have a family before you got married so you are both on the same page as to whether or not you will have children and now the question simply becomes a matter of when.  Each couple may feel differently about this topic and unfortunately sometimes even both partners will disagree, but coming to an agreement will help keep the relationship happy and moving forward.

Children are a wonderful addition to your family, but the truth is that they are also a lot of work and can put a strain on your marriage as you learn to adjust to the changing demands.  This is, in the end, a good thing because this strain helps you to grow stronger as a couple and cements the bond you have together, however it is important to make sure you are ready before entering this next phase together.  Taking the time to talk things over with your partner is an important part of deciding when you are ready to have children. »Continue reading Is it Time to Have Children?

OK, so you realize (in Hindsight, which is always 20/20) the relationship you had 5/10/20 years ago was the best one you ever experienced. Whatever it was that made you call it off – normally fear or longing for “something better” – that person has now come you as your soulmate, probably as a revelation while lying in bed after a bad-date experience.

I assume you called it off because very seldom do we regret a decision if it was imposed by another – i.e. they broke up with you, and you would rather have stayed together. We may look back on those with a longing but normally if someone else makes the decision we have no second thoughts of making a mistake because it was not our decision that can be considered an error. »Continue reading You Found Your Soulmate – But They Slipped Away 10 Years Ago

There are many times in our relationships that we have trouble expressing ourselves or working through certain problems.  Most of the time, this causes the relationship to end or the two people to become more distant with one another.  Any bad relationship can be worked on if the two people in that relationship are willing to work things out with one another and communicate.  In the following article, we will review some places that you can go if you need relationship counseling.

First and foremost, there are marriage and relationship counselors.  These people went to school specifically to help couples work through their problems.  There are marriage and relationship counselors all over.  If you do not have one of these counselors in your town or city, you can start looking for one on the internet or in your phone book.  If you are serious about seeing a counselor, you will want to make sure that they are legitimate and have all of their certifications. »Continue reading Do You Need Relationship Conseling

If you want to keep the spark alive in your relationship, you will have to learn keeping blame out of your relationship. No one likes to be pointed with a fickle finger and receiving blame for something. It is a very common human trait to transfer blame to others. Actually, we do not try to judge ourselves and find out how we can help improve the situation, rather we find it easier to transfer the blame of a situation unto another partner.

When guilt is arising within you, it is easy to transfer the blame on your partner. However, in order to maintain a strong and healthy relationship you must learn keeping blame out of your relationship and look at yourself and find out what you could do to help the situation.

In any aggravated situation in relationships, you must take a step back and try to figure out how the argument started and what added fuel to the fire. Keeping blame out of your relationship can be achieved if you try to figure out your contribution to the problem. Actually, before pointing a finger at others you must understand that the other four are pointing at you. So it is advisable that you try to figure out your mistake at first. If you are a part of an argument, you must take responsibility of all your actions and words. Once you admit your mistakes, you can find out ways in which you can correct them and see that they do not recur in the future. »Continue reading Keeping Blame Out of Your Relationship